Top 7 Worst Synastry Aspects That Lead To Breakups

Have you ever experienced a relationship that no matter what you did, didn’t work out?

Well, Astrology is a wonderful tool to use in relationships. It has the ability to show whether or not a relationship can make it in the long term or if it is doomed to fail eventually. It is definitely a good idea to take a look at the synastry aspects you have with someone you have feelings for because you can quickly see if this relationship is worth investing in or not. 

Synastry is so useful in assessing whether a relationship has the potential for success. It can give you great insight into your relationship to see what the attraction is between you and that special man.

Learn more about the best synastry aspects for a fruitful relationship.

It is quite easy to see what the red flags are in the connection if you look at the synastry. Isn’t it better to know this before fully investing yourself in a relationship that is doomed to fail anyway?

If you’re interested in finding out what these aspects are and what you need to look out for in your relationship synastry, then keep on reading. This might save you a lot of wasted time and heartbreak!

Worst Synastry Aspects — Signs To Look Out For

In synastry, there are a few things that you can look out for to help guide you in seeing the potential success and failure of your relationship. One of the biggest signs a relationship can be quite challenging is if there are many squares between you and your partner. 

Squares in synastry cause a lot of friction and challenges between two people. This can lead to a lot of misunderstandings, arguments, and negative feelings. Of course, a couple of squares can keep the relationship quite interesting, but if the whole connection is based on conflict, then it may lead to more problems than what the relationship is worth.

Conjunctions and oppositions can also be quite painful to deal with. But this depends more on the nature of the planets and which signs they find themselves in. 

Another red flag to look out for is when there are many aspects between Mars, Saturn, and Pluto. These three planets tend to cause a lot of disruption and drama in relationships. Neptune and Uranus have the potential for destruction as well.

When there are too many of these aspects in a relationship, it may overtake all the positive aspects two people share. 

Top 7 Worst Synastry Aspects That Lead To Breakups

Not all planets have the same weight in synastry. There are a few planets which are more sensitive than others. Conflicts between these can lead to pain and quarrels in the relationship.

Here are the top 7 synastry aspects you need to look out for that can lead to breakups.

1. Moon Square/Conjunct/Opposite Saturn

The Moon is one of the most important planets when it comes to relationship Astrology. This is because the Moon is the ruler of our feelings and emotions. It is the thing that governs our deepest and most intimate reactions. It is how we respond to the world around us.

Saturn on the other hand is the planet of restriction, responsibility, duty, and Karma. When it comes into contact with the Moon, feelings of repression and isolation might come up in the relationship. 

It can feel like neither party really understands one another. This can be extremely painful in a relationship. All the Moon person wants is to feel loved and supported by the Saturn person, but they just end up feeling unloved and abandoned by them.

Often the Saturn person can be quite oblivious to the Moon person’s feelings. It is as if they don’t know how to access the love between each other. All of this can lead to quite a lot of pain in the relationship.

2. Venus Square Saturn

Venus is probably the most important planet when it comes to relationships because it is the planet that rules love, romance, connections, as well as relationships.

While Saturn restricts everything it touches and can be quite cold and detached. When this aspect comes up in a relationship it can lead the Venus person to feel isolated and alone in their love. 

Whatever they do, they will never be enough for the Saturn person. Many misunderstands may come up in this connection that can lead to quite a bit of pain and conflict. 

Saturn will continue to block the love of Venus as it restricts them from being able to express their love authentically. This is a very hard aspect to contend with as it can cause a lot of hurt feelings.

3. Mercury Square Mars

Arguments are the center of this aspect. Mercury is the ruler of communication and expression, while Mars is the planet of war and aggression. When there is a tough aspect between these two planets, it can cause many painful fights. 

The energy of this aspect is explosive and fiery. This couple won’t be able to contain their anger and are likely to express it in quite an unhealthy way. They might feel triggered when they try to communicate and have a hard time expressing themselves in a productive manner. 

Their communication styles might lead to frustration and constant arguments because they can’t seem to understand each other. They get extremely triggered by one another. Power struggles seem to be at the forefront of this union.

4. Mars Square Saturn

Mars and Saturn are both known as malefic planets in Astrology. This means that these planets have the potential to do a lot of harm and can cause quite a bit of conflict between each other. 

These two planets are not easy and can cause quite a bit of pain between two people. They have the potential to really hurt each other. Mars is a planet that moves quickly, is aggressive, and doesn’t think twice before acting. 

Saturn on the other hand is slow, cold, and detached. When these two planets square each other, it can lead to major pain in the relationship and an eventual breakup.

These two individuals will have different expectations of the relationship. One of them will want to move quickly, while the other one will go at a very slow pace. This will lead to all kinds of conflict that can be rather detrimental to the relationship. 

5. Mercury Square/Opposite Mercury

Mercury is the planet of communication and intellect. I often think that Mercury is actually quite overlooked when it comes to romantic relationships. But communication is the foundation of a healthy union, and if two people don’t understand one another, it can be quite difficult to have a flowing relationship.

When Mercury is in conflict with the other person’s Mercury it can lead to a lot of drama due to miscommunication. These two will find it impossible to understand one another.

Poor communication will destroy even the strongest of relationships and cause a lot of heartbreak in the union. If you want to learn how to communicate better with your partner, based on your Mercury sign, check out here.

6. Mars Square/Opposite/Conjunct Pluto

Both Mars and Pluto tend to be extremely violent planets that can cause a lot of destruction in a relationship. These planets can be extremely intense and make the attraction between two people off the charts. 

However, these aspects have the potential to be quite abusive in a romantic relationship. Themes of control and manipulation are quite common in these dynamics.

This connection can feel quite alluring and seductive which makes it incredibly difficult for this couple to let go of one another once they have established their connection. The drama can be quite addictive. 

This relationship will go from one power struggle to the next. Feelings of jealousy, possession, envy, and obsession can come up in this dynamic which can be extremely destructive if the couple isn’t careful. 

The problem with this dynamic is that it tends to be quite physical and can make the sex between this couple out of this world. This is why this couple will have a hard time letting go of this union, despite all the pain that comes with being together.

Related: How To Tell If He Wants You — Check Out His Mars Sign

7. Venus Square Neptune

If there is one synastry aspect I would be quite cautious of it is Venus square Neptune. Although Venus and Neptune are relatively friendly planets, Neptune unfortunately often makes it quite difficult to see a situation clearly. 

Neptune is the planet of glamor, illusion, spirituality, and creativity, but this planet also tends to make matters quite hazy and difficult to see reality. In a Venus square Neptune connection, it is very easy to think that the relationship is perfect and that there aren’t any major issues in the union.

Because of this aspect, a couple might be in quite an abusive relationship but struggle to see the problems for what they truly are. This can lead to slow destruction over time in which both individuals completely lose who they are as they can no longer recognize themselves in the relationship.

What Does It Mean If You Have One Of These Aspects In Your Relationship?

If you happen to have one of these aspects in your relationship then you must know how difficult the relationship can be at times. There is constant conflict, especially if you don’t have other aspects to help balance out the bad with the good.

When you have one of these aspects you can safely assume that you are on borrowed time in this relationship, especially if there aren’t other aspects that make the relationship easier.

I think it is quite important to have a bit of conflict in your romance as it can make the relationship quite interesting. But if there are only negative aspects, then it can make the relationship extremely painful. You need some good to make the relationship work.

Read next: Essentials For Navigating Relationships, Based On Your Lunar Nodes

Understanding Your Relationship Chart

Reading this article, I am sure you must have realized how important it is to know the dynamics of the synastry you have with your partner. This is why I always say it is so invaluable to know what is going on in your Astrology synastry.

It can unlock so many secrets and doors of opportunities for you because you get to know your relationship on such a deeper level. This gives you power and authority over your life because you know exactly who you are and where you are going in this union. 

I cannot stress how much I recommend having your Synastry Chart read. It will change your life and equip you with so much knowledge about yourself, but not only that, you will understand the people in your life on such a deeper and more intimate level to help you navigate your relationship better.

I hope this article was somehow meaningful to you, and that you understand more about yourself and the aspects of your synastry now.

You are now better equipped to take on your life and the challenges that come your way in your relationship because you know exactly where you need to be headed.

Remember to embrace your strengths and work on your weaknesses, and always be open to growth and expansion.

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16 thoughts on “Top 7 Worst Synastry Aspects That Lead To Breakups

  1. I’m a female sagittarius and he’s a virgo. We have been in a relationship for 7 months. He is very much a virgo male. We hit it off the first day. I’m 16 years older then him, I’m 62 and he’s 46. I’ve read we’re not compatible because of our signs is this true?

    1. Dear Dawn,

      Your differences are as great as your similarities in approach, with Sagittarius favoring an impulsive and idealistic approach compared with Virgos relentless perfectionist search for rationalism.

      Thankfully, communication is important to both of you, so you should be able to iron out things to form a productive bond that is great for a long term partnership but not the best compatibility for a hot summer romance.

  2. I’m a Capricorn and he’s a Taurus. I’m Jan 11 and he’s may 19. He found me again after 8 years. He’s been married before for 11 years and then had a relationship for 4 years and then found me. He’s going through a child custody battle right now and won’t let me in his feelings until he takes care of this first. He’s done said to me that I’ll contact you when my life is straight again meaning the child custody battle. What should I do Anna? I love this man a lot.

    1. Dear J,
      The problems you can have may be from your lack of ability to be emotional in a way Taurus comprehends. You may not empathize with him very well or you may not be able to express yourself in a way he gets.

      This could be an obstacle for your relationship, so for now all you could do is show your support when needed. You will have to take a step back and let him deal with his own issues and to give him time to work on his insecurities and whatever holds him down emotionally.

    2. Dear J,
      Taurus man and Capricorn woman function together well because you both share an earthy appreciation of all that is valuable in an earthly sense. Taurus values the aesthetics more, so will be the one investing in art, while Capricorn is more about practicalities so she’ll be the one who gets it properly framed, displayed and insured. Give him enough time to process what’s going on in his life. This time for him will allow you to have your thoughts on the situation too and you can find out what the best plan of action is for this situation. I think you should be patient and let him deal with his issues.

  3. I’m a Gemini on the cusp of Taurus and he’s a Pisces. We hit it off right away with mutual attraction. Due to some issues we broke up. After 3 months we started talking to work things out. I have an impatient style and he takes things slowly. I find it hard to read his true feelings. What do the stars advise?
    Thank you.

    1. Hi M,
      This is a very challenging union. You have the capacity of creating some heavy storms for him and he may end up straying.
      Pisces man in gentle and kind, a dreamer. The next 2.5 years will be challenging for him because Saturn is now transiting through Pisces and will affect his Sun. He is very deep, emotional, and is looking for the woman he can settle down with and live for each other. He doesn’t mind a woman with a career but he wants to be a huge portion of her attention.
      I hope all goes well for you both.

  4. Hi. I really like a pieces man (21 Feb) and I’m a Taurus (8 May). He is 21 and I’m 23. We dated for 2 months and then did 3 months long distance but still saw each other here and there. We spoke about marriage and I have every possible sign this relationship was going to work and we would stay together for a very long time. Everything was going great and I was so excited for him to commit and make our relationship official once he got back but right before he was supposed to he sent a break up message saying his life is a mess and he cannot commit right now. It came completely out of the blue. We broke up 20 November 2022.He didn’t want to talk to me and ignored my messages and so I gave him 2 months of space. I didn’t know where he stays so I couldn’t visit. After 3 months one day he randomly sent me a message saying he wants to meet in person and that he still has a lot of feelings for me. I said yes and on the night he was supposed to come over he never did and then blocked me on every possible platform without any reason (even emails). I have been trying to get a hold of him and tried so many different things but I have no way to contact him. We had an amazing time together and I would like to reach out to him. How do I reach out to him and what do I say so that he erases any negative emotions from the break up and imagines a future with me?

    1. Dear Mish,
      First of all, he acted disrespectfully. Going silent for months and then reaching out to meet you only to change his mind again and block you. Don’t settle for that.
      He doesn’t deserve you. You deserve a man who thinks you are too important to lose. Please don’t reach out to him. Start healing.
      You better start a new journey thinking everything happens for a good reason, and soon enough, you will meet a man whose attention you will not chase.

  5. Hi Anna, I am a twin and he is an Aries. He is very fiery and fast. I love that! I am also fast, playful and cheerful. No man is so passionate. But I also learn a lot from this man. But he and I dare not make any progress. I got too excited and never heard from him again. Coincidentally on June 30. I think he’s ghosting me. I scared him. I leave him alone and get on with my fun life. I understand if he has to think. Too bad if he doesn’t let me know anymore because I had an enormous strong energy with him and wanted to say goodbye if he doesn’t want to go on anymore. What do the stars advise?

    1. Hi Astrid,

      The Aries man will often come across as passionate and intense. Many women take this as a sign that he is emotionally vulnerable and open, but unfortunately, this isn’t always the case. He is passionate, yes, but emotional? Hell, no!

      You might think he is more emotionally invested than he actually is because he is honest, possessive, and direct. So when a woman starts becoming very emotional with an Aries man, it tends to freak him out and makes him pull away.

      Sensitivity and attachment aren’t what he signed up for so soon and this is why he is pulling away. Give him time to reflect on his feelings.

  6. Hi Anna,

    I have sun square mars with my boyfriend. I’m mars in saggitarius and his sun in pisces. Is that a bad synastry? Are we gonna last?

    1. Dear Hannah,

      No, this only means that you both have masculine and passionate energy. You feel drawn to each other. This energy can be even aggressive and the relationship is filled with action and tension.
      The relationship might begin with a passion, but once passion is gone you will begin to notice his flaws (and vice versa). This aspect leads to conflicts, disagreements and arguments which can be progressive. Try not to compete with him. You both should be winners.
      Good luck!

  7. Hi Anna. I’m a Libra in love with a Virgo man. I’m also older than him. He’s very much the Virgo man, August 29, 1986. I’m a Libra with an Aries moon, Sept 25 69. We don’t fight, physically, we do have some mental battles though. Do you think we stand a chance? I don’t know much about synistry but am learning.

    1. Dear Theresa,

      I am not sure if his Moon is in Cancer or Gemini but it creates very challenging aspects with your personal planets. There is a difficulty in understanding each other’s emotional needs, but you certainly have aspects that keep you together.
      Age gap is not the problem. But once you get to the point where you’re from two different generations the obstacles to overcome become very significant.
      It is how he perceives things and especially if he has influential friends or family, this could be a problem for him to deal with. He is drawn to you but seems unsettled because your energy is electrifying.
      I hope all goes well for you both!

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