Oh, Venus Retrograde… That dreaded time comes around about once every year and can cause some really big havoc in our love lives. Venus Retrograde is often called “The Season Of The Ex,” because your blasts from the past may very well come back to haunt you.
This is the time of the year where you often hear from ex-lovers, friends, and acquaintances from your past. So, be prepared for a trip down memory lane, because it is going to happen to you – whether you like it or not!
The nostalgia is real over this period, and you may find yourself yearning for those memories from the past. Why does Venus Retrograde cause this phenomenon in our lives, and how can you be prepared for what’s to come?
In this article, I’ll be explaining everything you need to know about the Venus Retrograde and how it will affect each individual sign. So, if you are interested in learning more, please continue reading! I advise you to read your Sun, Moon, And Rising sign to get the most accurate horoscope.
What Is Venus Retrograde?
Venus, the planet of love, beauty, and relationships, is going Retrograde this month from December 19th to January 29th 2021, in the sign of Capricorn. When a planet goes Retrograde, it simply means that the planet appears to be moving in a backward motion in the sky.
However, with Venus, it is a little more complicated because Venus already moves in the opposite direction of us here on Earth, so when Venus Retrograde comes along, it just means that Earth is actually moving faster than Venus.
And because we are such social creatures, we definitely feel this Retrograde quite intensely! This may even feel a little bit worse than the dreaded Mercury Retrograde.
This can be quite the rollercoaster time for relationships, as it is often so common to see exes come back from the past, or for individuals to realize that the relationship they currently find themself in is no longer working.
Venus Retrograde puts a magnifying glass on all of our relationships and the way we show up to love and romance. This gives us the opportunity to revisit relationships from the past and perhaps to rekindle a romance that once was.
This is a beautiful time for you to just take a moment and to reflect on all the relationships from your past, to dig deep, and to discover what you were meant to learn from those relationships with your exes.
Unfortunately, when Venus Retrograde comes along, we also tend to see the world through rose-tinted glasses, and you might just overlook any kind of red flags or warning signs that come with a particular person.
Why Is Venus Retrograde Important For Relationships?
Well, Venus is the most important planet when it comes to love and romance. It governs everything to do with love, from what we find attractive in others, to the way we act when we are in love.
So, when Venus is in Retrograde, the planet isn’t working at its full capacity. It can make you feel confused and overwhelmed when it comes to your love life. There may be certain things you might feel you are missing in your relationship.
Certain triggers may have you running back to an ex, you may have realized you made a mistake by breaking up with your partner, you may see certain values in your current partner that might be giving you pause.
All of this can be a really crazy time for your love life!
How Can You Use Venus Retrograde To Your Advantage?
Venus Retrograde is the perfect time for you to get clear about what you want in your relationships. Because you are forced to revisit some of the relationships from your past, it allows you to really figure out what you like, as well as what you don’t like in love.
This is also the time of the year when you are more likely to meet someone who holds a karmic or soul tie with you. You might meet someone and feel like you have known them forever.
The Universe opens up a portal for you to connect with people from your past, be that in this life or a previous one. Twin Flame connections are more apparent over the Venus Retrograde period.
There is a lot you can learn during Venus Retrograde, but ultimately, it is about realizing what you are worth and not settling for anything less than what you deserve. This is the perfect time for healing and closure.
Hopefully, this period will make you see that certain relationships ended for a reason and that you are now better off without this person in your life. However, a small group of you may actually find love again with a previous partner.
Just don’t walk into this blindly and make sure that your intentions are pure. It is important that you aren’t swayed by toxicity, or simply looking to fix things just because you are lonely.
Venus Retrograde In Capricorn: What Does It Mean?
Venus loves being in Capricorn because this sign is all about lasting commitment. This is not the time for casual flings or one-night-stands, Venus in Capricorn simply disapproves of anything that isn’t taken seriously.
This is a time for you to get honest with yourself and to really get clear about what you feel you deserve in your relationships.
Self-Care Tips To Remember During Venus Retrograde
1. Focus On Your Own Needs
When Venus Retrograde comes around, it can be easy to get lost in all the chaos and drama around you that you end up forgetting about yourself and your individual needs. It is amazing that you are so caring for others, but this is really the time to put all the love into yourself.
Make time for walks in nature, long baths, and getting to bed early. All of this should make you feel really good and strong within yourself. Remember that Venus rules beauty, and it may also affect the way you feel about yourself and the way you look.
This is why it is so important to take extra care of yourself over this period. This will give you the boost of confidence you need! My only suggestion is to stay away from hairstylists because Venus Retrograde is notoriously bad for new hair-dos!
2. Make Peace With The Past
One of the most painful things about the ending of a relationship is that your dreams of the future also have to come to an end. Sometimes, this is the most difficult thing to let go of in a relationship.
Luckily, Venus Retrograde comes around to help you make peace with what happened in the past. This can be incredibly healing and give you the opportunity to let go of that ex you just can’t seem to shake.
Venus Retrograde has come around to give you the closure you need. Greet this opportunity with open arms.
3. Listen To Your Inner Guidance
Always listen to your intuition, but over Venus Retrograde your intuition may be heightened. Be sure to pay attention to what your gut is trying to tell you over this period. Remember that this is a time of reflection, so don’t be surprised when you receive extra guidance to help you.
4. Be Mindful Of Your Spending Habits
One of the things Venus rules is money. And over the period of Venus Retrograde, you may find that your spending habits are a bit more unusual than what you may be used to. You may be spending a lot more of your money on unnecessary expenses.
Venus Retrograde is synonymous with overindulgence and wanting more than you could possibly handle. Try your best to stick to a budget, and save more than you usually would!
How Will This Venus Retrograde Affect My Sign?
My dear Aries, this Venus Retrograde is going to be a wild one. This period is going to put you front and center and in the spotlight for quite some time. This is an amazing time for you to gain recognition and draw attention to yourself.
This Venus Retrograde in Capricorn is really going to help you understand what you truly want from your romantic relationships. This is the perfect time for you to zone in on what you value in a man and how you want to be treated.
If you’re tired of being in a “situationship” with a certain man, then it is time for you to put your foot down and let him know that you have had enough. If commitment is the thing you want in your life, then you should be able to ask for it!
Venus Retrograde is a wonderful time for you to plan for the future and to envision the life you want with a romantic partner. Make your love life a priority!
This is your moment to look back on all your previous relationships and recognize when you weren’t being treated right. This is the time for you to say no to any mistreatment and put your desires forth into the Universe because trust me, baby, the planets are always listening!
With your ruling planet, Venus, going Retrograde in Capricorn this month, you are definitely going to feel the effects of it. This can be quite a challenging time for you, so it is really important that you don’t get discouraged or despondent when it comes to love.
This Venus Retrograde is all about finding that connection with someone totally unexpected and outside of your comfort zone. Love should be something that excites you and fills you with wonder.
This could be an amazing time for you to meet someone while you are on vacation, especially if you are traveling abroad. A holiday fling, maybe? However, this Venus Retrograde in Capricorn is looking for something a little more serious.
Perhaps it is time for you to let go of all your preconceptions around love and who you expect your ideal partner to be, and to open up your mind as well as your heart to someone you never considered before.
This Venus Retrograde will teach you the importance of keeping an open mind and allowing yourself to grow and learn through love. Love is a lot easier to come by when you are willing to change your perspective.
My lovely Gemini, this Retrograde likely won’t be a walk in the park for you because it is happening in the deepest, most intimate part of your chart. This is the moment for you to dig deep and find that bond with someone special.
This is a time for you to deepen your connection and open your heart to that person who makes your heart skip a beat. Those of you who are single are likely to find a greater urge and yearning for love and intimacy over this Venus Retrograde in Capricorn.
This is the time for you to become really clear with yourself, but also to your partner about what it is you are looking for in a relationship. This is that moment where you need to be honest with yourself and see if your needs are actually being met.
You are done with your surface-level connections and chit-chat, and you are looking for something that is going to continue to speak to your soul. Keeping things surface-level is your protective mechanism.
This Retrograde is allowing you to feel something deeper and open up your heart to be more vulnerable. Be sensitive, be emotional, and allow yourself to feel the depths of your emotions. There is a lot for you to gain from this process.
My lovely Cancer, you are one of the most affected signs by the Venus in Retrograde this year. Venus will be on an extended tour of your relationship area, and things are bound to become a little tough!
These challenges are here to test your resolve and to help you solidify your relationship. Relationships often take work, but this Retrograde may test you way beyond what you thought your limits were.
This period acts as a relationship realignment. Whatever is working in your love life will become stronger, but any weaknesses that show up are going to have to go under the magnifying glass. It won’t be easy, but it will help you to heal and process.
It can be easy to fall into old relationship traps during Venus Retrograde, but you need to ascend and move past your habits from the past. You are a new woman, and the only time you revisit previous relationships is to think about what you have learned.
This is the moment for you to become comfortable with your commitments, and to realize what you deserve when it comes to love. There is no longer space in your life for any mistreatment. You know what you want and how to ask for it.
My gorgeous Leo! This year’s Venus Retrograde is going to be all about taking your self-care practices to the next level. This period should be seen as a time for you to check in with yourself and see if your self-love rituals are at a standard that is good enough.
This could be quite a daunting task, having to really look in the mirror to see if you are treating yourself with enough love and respect that you deserve. Remember that the relationship you have with yourself is forever and should always be a priority.
Reflect on your patterns and notice where you can improve. This whole Venus Retrograde in Capricorn should be all about learning to treat yourself with better love and respect. The more effort you put into yourself, the happier you will feel.
Sometimes we think that someone else is going to be able to fix all of our problems for us, but this is simply not the case. It is so important to be able to put yourself first and recognize when you aren’t treating yourself with enough kindness.
Treating yourself like a queen has an extremely positive impact on everything, especially including the relationship you have with the men in your life. Put yourself first, and watch how the men come running.
Venus Retrograde is going to be quite the romantic time for you, Virgo. But it isn’t going to be without its challenges, that is for sure. Exes are definitely making their way back into your life, so it is important for you to check in with yourself over this period.
You have the choice: either you revisit the relationship from the past and get closure, or you choose to rekindle the romance you once had. This Retrograde is going to allow you to become clear about what you actually want.
It may take a while for you to figure this out, but luckily you have six full weeks to explore all the options available to you. You may be feeling particularly romantic and sensual over the Retrograde, so be sure to think twice before you jump into anything that has the potential to hurt you.
Your mind, as well as your heart, may feel quite foggy, so at times it may be difficult for you to see if the choices you are making are actually good for you. This is why you need to carve out some time to spend with yourself and get really quiet without any distractions.
Listen to your intuition, and try to block out the opinions of others. At the end of the day, only you know what is best for you, so follow that inner guidance and see where this journey is leading you towards. It sounds quite exciting!
Libra, with some life experience, you can probably agree that when you are looking for a partner it becomes more and more important that you feel like you can be comfortable with this person. Your boyfriend or husband needs to feel at home and give you a sense of security.
With the Venus Retrograde, you are going to have to face the facts and see if this actually rings true in your relationship. Wanting to be with some who makes you feel safe and secure is really not a lot to ask for. So, if your significant other makes you feel this way, then cherish him!
But, if he doesn’t, then is this relationship you have truly worth the effort? Venus rules values, and if you are compromising on something so important, then is it possible that you aren’t actually so happy?
Perhaps you and your man need to take the time to re-evaluate your relationship and find a way to connect with one another again. All relationships have their highs and lows, and it is so important that you work on it, especially if it is meaningful to you.
This is an opportunity for you to both express your needs and gain greater clarity on what you actually want to achieve in your union together. At the end of the day, it comes down to communication and willingness to compromise.
Oh, Scorpio – you are known for your mysterious and alluring ways, keeping your thoughts to yourself, but with this Venus Retrograde in Capricorn, you are going to have to learn to speak up and share what is on your mind.
As women, we sometimes make the mistake to think that men are somehow mind-readers and know what we are thinking, and this couldn’t be further from the truth. Men don’t think as we do, and definitely need to be guided.
This is the moment for you to open up a little and be willing to have these conversations with your loved one. No one can fault you for being deep, but sometimes you can get a little too guarded.
Let your vulnerability shine with your partner. This is the necessary step for you to take things to the next level with your man. Share with each other your biggest hopes and fears and be really honest with one another.
There are still so many opportunities to learn from the person you love, so be sure to keep your mind as well as your heart open to experience this. Venus Retrograde is urging you to connect deeper by speaking your truth.
My lovely, Sagittarius. You are about to learn a lot about yourself over this Venus Retrograde in the Capricorn period. This is the moment for you to turn inward and do some self-reflection and introspection.
It is easy to lose sight of yourself and your own needs when there is so much craziness going on in the world. This Venus Retrograde is giving you the opportunity to really question how much you truly value and respect yourself.
Without that inner confidence, it can be quite hard to allow yourself to love and be loved by another. You may feel like you aren’t good enough, or that you need to change XYZ before a man could ever possibly commit himself to you.
Are any of these thoughts actually true? Unlikely! Use this Venus Retrograde to remind yourself how amazing and worthy you are. Don’t get stuck in this negative way of thinking, you are worth way more than that!
Never feel guilty for choosing yourself! This is the least you can do for your own happiness. Remember when you value who you are, so does the rest of the world. We are all mirrors, so keep in mind what you reflect!
Did someone say, glow-up? Capricorn, this Venus Retrograde is happening in your sign! What an amazing opportunity for you to turn your life around and go through quite the transformation within yourself.
This won’t necessarily be an easy time, but transformations never are. This Venus Retrograde is going to take a lot of hard work if you want to see the results you are looking for. This is the moment for you to step into your power and be the woman you were born to be.
You now get the opportunity to not only change the way you see yourself, but also the way others perceive you. Take a step back and really think about the image you put out to the world. Did you know you have the power to change this completely?
You don’t have to do anything crazy to get people’s attention, but simply taking better care of yourself can make a world of difference to the way people perceive you. Looks aren’t everything, but they certainly help.
Spend some extra time and effort into your appearance this month and see how good that makes you feel. This can only help you to boost your confidence and make you more open to receiving the love you deserve from a man.
Relationships with others may need to take a backseat for you this Venus Retrograde, Aquarius. For you, this is a time for solitude and finding a deeper connection with yourself and perhaps your spirituality.
This is the perfect moment for you to just disconnect from the rest of the world, and to firmly focus on yourself and your innermost desires. The Universe is urging you to confront your demons to make peace with them and move on.
Any relationship baggage you might be holding on to from the past can now be released and let go of. You may not realize it, but forgiving and letting go is actually a very powerful act of self-love and care.
You already know that in order to find the best relationship with a man, you first have to have the best relationship with yourself. And that takes a lot of time and dedication to achieve. It is something you need to commit to every day.
So, spend these next few weeks exploring your innermost world and truly getting to the core of who you are as a person. Knowing yourself means loving yourself, and that can only help you on your journey towards finding love and happiness.
Friends often turn into lovers, and with the Venus Retrograde in Capricorn, you may find yourself seeing someone in your friend group in a new light. How exciting! It is worth taking the chance, isn’t it? What is love if there wasn’t a bit of risk involved?
Finding the one isn’t always easy, but there are more options available to you that you may realize at first. There is always the possibility to ask your friends to set you up or to be open to online dating.
You are going to have to put yourself out there eventually, so you might as well do it now! Live a little and get out of your comfort zone. Nothing is waiting for you there except the same old life you are unsatisfied with right now.
As you explore more and see how many options are available to you, you should start to feel more comfortable and open to taking chances. Not only that, it should also help you with your confidence.
A confident woman can attract any guy she wants. So, start believing in yourself and recognizing that you are worthy of a happy relationship full of love and romance. You never have to settle for anything less!
My Final Wishes For You
The next few weeks when Venus is in Retrograde in Capricorn is going to be challenging at times, and will definitely put a lot of extra pressure on all things love and relationships. Just remember all the tips I mentioned above.
You are now well prepared to take on this transit head-first. So, make the most of it and see what you can learn from the process. You are bound to see your relationships in a new light when this period is over, so soak up as much knowledge as you can!
Please let me know what sign you are and what you are looking forward to most over this Venus Retrograde in Capricorn in the comment section below. I am always so excited and happy to hear from all my lovely readers.
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I am sure this will give you guidance in the right direction!
Wishing you so much love and happiness.
Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,