Do you know exactly what you don’t want in a relationship, but not so much what you truly desire in one? Are you wondering if Astrology can shed some light on what your hidden desires are in a relationship? If so, you’ve come to the right spot!
My name is Anna Kovach. I adore Relationship Astrology, and I’ve practiced it for years. I am passionate about fixing kinks in relationships while expanding their love potential!
Sometimes self-reflection isn’t as easy as walking over to the mirror. That’s why I wrote this article. I hope that the information that I’m providing will light a torch in your relationships! You’ll gain direction and insight when you take this advice to heart.
Without further ado, keep reading to find out your secret desire in a relationship that you may never have known you wanted!
What Your Secret Desire Is In A Relationship – Based On Your Zodiac Sign
Aries: Stability
Aries, you’re a go-getter, and you’ve always looked forward to a new start. I have always admired the initiative that Aries has! You’ve got a heart full of passion that never ceases to impress. Yet, what you need in a relationship isn’t that sort of fire… you’ve already got that! Your connection should have a certain amount of grounding stability.
You have a tendency to begin things and never follow through. This extends to your relationships. The element that should be present in your relationships is consistency! You need a vibe that is all about remaining solid.
You can still have new beginnings and times full of spontaneity. But you also need something that will keep you preoccupied for a long time to come. If you can’t find a relationship that you don’t want to pull the plug on, you’ll hop from lover to lover for life.
I recommend a partner that can help you follow through on your commitments. This will make you an unstoppable force! Your dynamism paired with a solid romantic foundation will ensure a lifelong relationship.
Taurus: Conversation
Taurus, you’re a reliable person who isn’t afraid to take a stand for what you believe in. You know what you’re all about. Your certainty in who you are makes you an unstoppable force! You’re committed and grounded, something that I find to be admirable.
Although you’re planted in the 3D world, you privately desire a relationship that is more cerebral. You want a relationship with healthy communication. You might not acknowledge it, but your relationship should have stellar communication.
Your ideal relationship that is full of texting, talking on the phone, and late-night conversations. You should be ecstatic to run home after work to tell your partner all about your work drama. Your perfect partner will be expressive around you!
Gemini: Empathy
Gemini, you are one of the most intelligent signs of the Zodiac! Your brain is the envy of all who know you. You’re an active person who usually has a million things to do in a day. You buzz around, full of life and energy. Everyone knows you, and you’re always down to have a chat with anyone who will listen.
It may surprise you, but your secret desire is that you need emotional understanding. You are an extrovert who extends your energy outward, so getting emotional may feel like a drag! Despite this, you know that you need a relationship where you can be in your feelings without consequence.
To satisfy your secret relationship desire, you need a partner who cares about your inner life. Your ideal partner will want to go beyond your bubbly exterior to the soft underbelly. It’s shocking how fulfilled you’ll be with someone who honors your emotional self.
Cancer: Star Quality
Cancer, you’re the type of person who keeps their business to themselves. You’re not usually one for showy displays. You’re a sweet and sensitive soul, and others feel comforted around you. You have a rich inner life that only the blessed few will ever catch a glimpse of. I admire your ability to make everyone feel like family.
Despite your introverted nature, your relationship should have a sense of glamour in it! You may not desire to be noticeable yourself. Still, your hidden desire is to be in a relationship that envied by others.
You dream that your friends will ooh and ahh over the clear perfection of your relationship. You might want to be in a relationship that your parents are proud of you for. I suggest you look for a partner who will elevate your social status and make you feel like the Queen you are!
Leo: Intelligence
Leo, you’re the lion of the Zodiac, and you’d like everyone to hear you roar! You’re a showstopper, and you know it. Your confidence and swagger pour into everything that you do. Others love or hate you, but you’re always on everyone’s minds!
Though it seems like you’d want someone with celebrity cred, your secret desire is for an intelligent relationship. You may not seek out brainiacs, but you need a mentally stimulating relationship. Given your intense romantic nature, I know you’d absorb information from your lover like a sponge!
You want to have complex conversations and to be a “perfect” couple in the eyes of others. You’re seeking to be the people that others invite to their Jeopardy watch parties! A classy partner who makes you look like you know your stuff is your hidden desire.
Read also – Top 3 Mistakes A Leo Woman Makes In Love
Virgo: Romance
Virgo, you’re a practical sign which is firmly entrenched in reality. You have a strong pragmatic streak, and you tend to be a know-it-all! Your brainy nature leaves no room for nonsense. Your pet peeve is impracticality. Your enviable work ethic has the rest of us wondering how you do it!
You might not realize that you secretly want a fairy tale romance. You privately want a loving and accepting partner. This may surprise you since you draw away from things that are ooey and gooey. Yet, in the realm of relationships you can learn to tolerate impracticalities.
Virgo, you will feel like you have it all when the love of your life walks in the door. Your desire to be swept off your feet lets you in on the full spectrum of life outside of facts and figures. Your ideal partner looks handsome, is invested, and is willing to ride off into the sunset with you!
Libra: Intrigue
Libra, you are a sweet and intellectual being who is the darling of all. Balance is your bread and butter (you are represented by the scales, after all!). Your charm can win others over with ease. Your most incredible skill is finding a middle ground for everyone around you.
Despite how loving and kind you are, your hidden desire for your relationship is intrigue. On some level, you’d like a relationship that makes you feel like every other relationship was a bore. You want something exciting and intense! (And who can blame you?)
Your best luck lies in a partner who satisfies this urge for life on the edge. You should consider a partner who pushes your comfort zone a little bit to be a good thing. This can be hard when your peacekeeper nature wants low-key activities. Still, it’s essential to fulfill your secret desires in any relationship!
Scorpio: Adventure
Scorpio, you are the most mysterious sign of the Zodiac. A part of you would very much like to burn everything you know to the ground and start over again. You search for situations that make you into a Phoenix rising from the ashes. This intensity is not for the faint of heart!
It actually makes sense that your secret desire in a relationship is to never be bored. You need a lot of stimulation to feel at peace. Sitting at home and relaxing in front of the tv was never for you. You need a relationship that will wake up your sense of adventure. You secretly desire to have a relationship that feels like a great escapade!
You should search for a partner who is not content with the bare minimum. Your lover should be the type to grab your hand and take you somewhere new at a moment’s notice. You’ll be surprised at how satisfied you become when you elevate your relationship to one that gets your blood pumping!
Sagittarius: Success
Sagittarius, you’re a worldly person who wants to feel the wind in your hair. Discovery and expansion are integral to your growth as a person. You never want to hang back while others go on crusades. It’s more likely that you’ll be leading the crusade!
It may sound surprising that your secret desire in a relationship is to have worldly success. You don’t care too much for status on your own, but when partnered, you’ll find that you need recognition. Your relationship should feel like it has a legacy and garners respect from others.
Your ideal partner will bring tradition to your life. Your partnership will have you feeling like the boss when you’re together. This sense of authority is something you likely never knew you desired. Still, in your ideal romance, this secret desire will become actualized!
Read also – How Venus Placement Influences A Sagittarius Woman’s Personality
Capricorn: Eccentricity
Capricorn, your nature is traditional and reserved. You’re always looking for a way to get a leg up in the world, which influences everything you do. Your high achieving nature drives people like you to the top of the corporate ladder and beyond.
You may be surprised to find out that what you most secretly desire in a relationship is something off the wall! Your personal self doesn’t need this, but you’ll realize that that eccentricity is key to your happiness in a relationship. There should be some element of oddness to your relationship to keep you satisfied.
Capricorn, you need a partner who will bring an element of surprise into the relationship. This is someone that you may never have suspected that you’d fall for. Trust that your gut is correct when you begin falling for the weirdo… you may find that they’re the love of your life!
Aquarius: Sensitivity
Aquarius, you are intelligent and friendly, often meaning that you’re the one everyone knows at parties. You’re objective but often too impersonal for your own good! You sometimes find it difficult to relate to others, though you take an interest in their lives.
Despite what comes naturally to you, your secret desire is a compassionate person. You have more emotions than you want to come clean about. This is why you need a relationship that encourages emotional honesty.
Your ideal partner is going to be attuned to your hidden emotions. They are constantly monitoring to see if you need emotional support. They see through your cool exterior to the softer part of you on the inside. Finding a relationship that speaks to your emotional side will make you more in tune with your real feelings!
Pisces: Passion
Pisces, you’re soft and loving by nature. You don’t typically take a lot of initiative in the world. Instead, you’re likely to meander while stopping to smell the flowers. You want the best for everyone, but you also have a hard time sticking up for yourself.
Your secret relationship desire, Pisces, is passion. If stereotypes are to be believed, you’d rather snuggle in bed with your lover all day rather than get it on. But you actually need a relationship that makes room for your primal side to grow. This is out of your comfort zone, but your relationship should inspire you to take what you want!
Your ideal partner empowers you to become the badass that you’ve never thought of yourself as! The partner you need loves to see you edge out of complacency and into fierceness. I encourage you to find that partner that makes you feel powerful, because this is where you thrive in love.
Read next: 5 Reasons Why You Need A Tarot Deck For Your Love Life
Bringing It All Together
What I think most signs took away from this was that what they consciously desire in a relationship and what they secretly desire in a relationship are two totally different things! You likely never guessed what your hidden romantic need was.
I encourage you to be open-minded and to really address this personal need. Ask yourself: Can I see why this would benefit me in a relationship? Do I realize that my needs as a person and my needs in a relationship are two different things? Am I ready to take the plunge into something that might make me feel uncomfortable?
If you’re ready, you will find that accepting someone you didn’t expect to be your perfect love will bear the ripest fruits! You’ll get a lot more out of life when you take the first step in the direction of the unknown – as scary as it may be.
What was your secret desire in a relationship? Do you feel that it could positively impact you in ways that you weren’t aware of before? Let me know what you think in the comments below!
Wishing you all the luck in the Universe,
Anna Kovach
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Hi Anna. I have finally found my missing piece to my love life. My true love. I am dating a Taurus man and he is ever true to his sign. Though he takes care of me and looks after me there is never a dull moment!
That was so amazing. We desire what we lack, haha. I’m impressed with your article. Now I can see why I choose the persons in my life according to my purpose for having relationship.
hi anna, thank you for your lovely post . not always responding sorry my work gets thebetter of me. I am a Libra who just a week ago hooked up with a Cancarian man…… what am I to look out for . It’s casual for now, he has some issues to deal with.. How do I keep him hooked and intrested.
Adventure: Visiting a new place, trying something new or being spontaneous is an adventure. These are all wonderful things. Kicking back & enjoying peace & relaxation is also wonderful. What I seek the most in a relationship is consistency, loyalty, honesty & good communication..,a real connection felt deep within.xx
I have fallen for a Libra man who I only encounter in text alone we haven’t officially met in person yet but he claims he loves me I don’t know how to handle this can you give me some insight of what to do ?
Thank you in advance
Hi Anna
Hit it spot on Leo for me & Libra for my guy.
Always appreciate your insight!
Kim
Hi Anna,
I still have not found my other half. I been married twice and divorce twice. I have 4 wonderful kids who keep me going, but it isn’t an easy thing being a single parent. I work as an administrative assistant in the field of law enforcement and my hope was to meet someone who was a true hearted person, but no such thing so far. I have been working here over 4 years now and nothing.
Hi Anna,
I recently met a sweet as pie, loving and caring genuine man. We have a strong connection almost instantly and I have been perplexed on how fast we are moving. But reading this article really makes allot more sense. We continually fill each other’s secret desires. I’m a Gemini he’s a Libra.
I believe I have found my soulmate. He’s every and more.. and he’s a Capricorn as well.. who would have thought! Crazy..
Hi Anna, yes as a Capricorn I do fall for the weirdo. But he must also be intelligent, talented, funny and very oddly handsome. ☺️
Hi Mariwood!
You like them unique. There is nothing wrong with that at all. Unique is far more interesting. It sounds like he’s a good match for you personally. I’m very happy to hear that. Thank you for tuning in to my blog. Stick around for more! Blessings to you sweetheart!
Hiya Anna . Im from the UK and have never believed in astrology until recently with you!
Im a Capricorn and refused to believe my Gemini man was not compatible with my sign. After reading about my attraction to weirdness it puts everything into perspective with my wonderfully weird Gemini man! I embrace his weirdness in an understanding way and so can adapt and allow him to be who he is naturally. This also allows me my free spirited space without taking my finger off the pulse so to speak. . I found that in many ways I am not a true Capricorn but have all the qualities and eccentricity. We are all unique so that makes sense. I look forward to your insightful emails like I look forward to the next chapter in a book!
I find myself realising the hidden qualities I have in identifying with myself through astrology that you so kindly take your free time to share.
Thank you 😊
Dear Jeanette,
Both of you are very intelligent and tend to do very well in any type of work that you do. However, you have very different approaches in life. You, being a Capricorn woman, are working toward security and making sure that everything is going to work out the right way. Gemini man is very social whereas the Capricorn woman is more introverted and likes to stay in more often than not, but if you could commit to each other long enough, you could discover some amazing things about each other that make you want to stay for the long haul.
I hope all goes well for you both!
I know I have found my soulmate. The stars say we’re not compatible not true. He is an aquarius and I am a Scorpio we are the opposite in something’s, and that’s what makes it work for us. This man knows better then I know myself sometimes. I give him space and he supports me when I am a emotional wreck at times.
Hi Francenia!
That’s wonderful if you intuitively feel you’ve found your soul mate. I am so happy to hear this sweetheart. I’m sure in a much deeper way you two connect astrologically better than your sun signs alone. There must be aspects that are allowing for you two to work so beautifully. I am excited for what you have sweetheart. I wish you all the very best!
Hi Anna I have my soul mate but after losing wife to illness I think he feels guilty after two years we love each other but I know he still loves her. And I think that is the real issue. 2 years in
Dear Vicki,
Coping with our losses represents our biggest life challenge.
It takes time to process the loss of a loved one. It is important to acknowledge how important she was to him, and to accept that she is gone.
He needs to accept what he feels (sadness, rage, anxiety, etc.)
Each person’s pain is unique as well as reactions to loss. This is all normal and memories of the past will dominate his thoughts.
These mental reactions are expected and you should not worry as it will take him to his recovery. Give him time.
I hope all goes well for your both.
Hey Anna, thanks for all your insight. I’m still single but I know my person is out there. Thanks again.
Hi Shannon!
It’s totally my pleasure to provide you with everything I can. Yes… there is no doubt your person is out there sweetheart. Manifest this person to you. Full Moon work is perfect for doing just that. Check out my blog on manifesting more love. I wish you all the very best in life as you deserve it!
Hey Anna,I met this guy on Facebook and he asked me to be his girlfriend..I agreed because he was cool and knew what he wanted
He was all lovey dovey and giving me the happiness I needed and by the way he’s my first boyfriend and it’s a long distance relationship
But of recent he’s been acting strange. Like he doesn’t call like before and I’m kinda having this feeling that he wants to end the relationship but he’s just holding it off for a while
He doesn’t or maybe he knows that he’s making me feel real bad and just want keep on doing it
I’m so confused
What should I do?…I need your wonderful insights Anna
Hi Anna thanks for giving me the insights. I met this guy thru online and we have the strong connections.he’s open minded and hard working guy i am 15 years older than him.he never failed sending letters though I talked to him rarely lately.im confused if he’s real .
I am definitely not a typical Sag. I have few friends, don’t call attention to myself in social settings & really want a life partner.
My Venus is in Scorpio & this part seems to ring true for who I am mostly. Just found out that I should not have trusted my Scorpio guy. Never will again.
This Virgo man I know is very slow in moving towards me , and also I feel that he is boring. I need excellent in my life .
Hi Patricia,
Please note that only when a Virgo man knows for sure that you are interested in him will he then start making some moves and trying to do something about it. This means that if you give him no signs, he’ll give up.
Hello Anna a pleasure being in touch with you..Was dating a Capricorn man and couldn’t open up to me cause he doesn’t like communicating with me and always need a time for himself ..by so doing we’ve broken up without tangible reason but he keeps on looking when we meet😂 but I don’t know if he’s still interested in me?
Hi Mavis,
Please note that Capricorn man is not an emotionally expressive person and may have a hard time expressing his feelings verbally, but if he is looking at you, that means he is still interested. You need to accept his serious and responsible nature so when he asks for some time alone, you should respect that.
Hi Anna,
I would like some advice for my Scorpio man because his up and down like he makes me jealous sometimes and idk why. Why do I feel hurt when my man doesn’t want to communicate with me when his talking to other girls. I want to know if his interested in me still.
Nikita 🙂
Dear Nikita,
The very best thing you can do when your Scorpio man is giving you a cold shoulder is to be very patient. Give him time and a little space to let him figure it out.
I’m not saying for you to stop talking to him. If you stop talking to him, he’ll think you don’t want him anymore. Just lighten up and don’t expect too much from the hot and cold Scorpio man. Focus on yourself and your life while you wait.
Very interesting and great information!! Every sign wants what the sign AFTER it offers and is better suited at showing and providing. I am a Taurus female and now I see and understand why I fell so hard and fast for a Gemini male in my past, because he is such a great communicator. We have remained friends but the relationship drifted apart for many reasons. Funny thing though is now I am talking to a Libra male, who is also an air sign like Gemini is, and the Libra male is also very big on communication. This Libra male is someone from my past, who when I first met him not only did we click instantly, there was also some sort of magnetic pull towards each other. We were part of each others life for a while, but my life led me down a very different path and I lost contact him for many years. Now after 10 years I am so grateful, thankful and happy to have found him again!! It has been so wonderful and amazing talking with him again. He even flew all the way out to see me in Rhode Island for his birthday and he lives in Florida!! We continue to touch base with each other everyday and he’s still very sweet to me. He knows I want to move back home to Florida and that I’ve wanted to move back for a few years now but I’m just not in a position to do it right this second. I think we both are a little apprehensive due to being so far apart right now and I understand and respect that. I look forward to seeing how the future unfolds for us once I am back in Florida though. I know there’s still a very strong connection between us and it’s not just on my end. I think we both needed those 10 years apart for our own growth and development. Either way this has been a very interesting and insightful read. Thank you for ALL your advice and abundant wisdom Anna!! You truly are one of a kind and a blessing!! Thank you for all you are and all you bring to this world!! In love and light, I thank you!!
Dear Lindsey,
Taurus woman and Libra man are a good match if you have compatible Moon signs. There are lots of issues you two will have to address if you’re going to make it past the initial chemistry you experience with each other, given that you already have a history. If your Moons are compatible, I believe it is a match made in heaven. This relationship obviously allows physical but it doesn’t allow emotional distancing.
I hope all goes well for you both!
Sending Love 🙂
Hi Anna
Mine was intrigue and I never considered that before. I’ve always stayed safe in my box of safety and security. I shall have to give this some serious thought…any suggestions on what intrigue might be described as? Lol I don’t even know wher to begin!
Dear Amy,
Transiting Saturn is currently forming a square with his natal Uranus. Saturn represents structure and stability, it dislikes changes or disruption while Uranus represents need for change, adaptability. In a square, energies are conflicted. Uranus tends to uproot what was once stable and secure in life. So, in case of intimate relationships people usually separate or new relationships are formed, either way, changes will take place. Once this transit is over you will reunite, just let him deal with this heavy transit without pressuring him and he will be back as soon as this is over.
I hope all goes well for you both!
This is so crazy and spot on you always seem to just know what I’m going threw and send things I need to hear I’m in love with a Sagittarius man and I am a Gemini but the problem is he disappeared 4 years ago without a word I seen him in the store about 2 years after he left but didn’t speak to him it now has been 4 years no communication but I still love him I can’t explain it but I feel like it’s not over yet i could be wrong tell me if I could feel like he is my soul mate because there is just this connection I can’t explain could i be wrong
Dear Jaymee,
What you’ve described is indeed a profound, unique bond that exists between two persons.
Sometimes, soulmate connection extend to different lifetimes. Individuals must deal with their lessons that paired them in each lifetime. It is a relationship that transcends the physical realm and I hope you will cross paths again in this lifetime.
Best of luck to you both!
Hi Anna, the new man in my life is such a mystery, but he surprises me continually. Yet, I have so much more to learn about him
So, the bottomline is that according to the reading above this, I seek adventure. It’s quite the adventure getting to know him.
I hope I never lose this wonderful Aries man.
Carrie